Every situation has a silver lining – discover a mindset that heals and enlightens.
October 18, 2021 · 8 min read
If my mind can conceive it, and my heart can believe it, I know I can achieve it. - Jesse Jackson
Did you know that negative thoughts are like a magnet that attracts the same energy – negative results?
70 percent of people are likely to be doomed and not to achieve their goals. One of the reasons for that is because of negative mind.
Trusting the process is incredibly meaningful thing to do to fulfill your life with positivity and achievements. If you’ve ever wondered how to create your dream life, you’ve come to the right place.
What does it mean to trust the process?
The definition of trust the process means to have a firm belief in a series of actions to accomplish a certain goal.
Just as it’s important to always trust, you must also have a good process scheme. Therefore, there are two components in this formula which go hand in hand.
If you truly put your mind to your goal, you’ll go further than at least 90 percent of population. There’s a high possibility that you will exceed your expectations and experience a divine journey in the process.
10 signs of trusting the process
Here are signs that indicate that you trust the process:
- You are confident in your actions.
- You have a good process scheme and plan.
- You are flexible.
- You aren’t frightened by failures.
- You are committed to your goal.
- You are consistent with the process.
- Your goal is meaningful.
- You enjoy the process.
- You stay positive.
- You ignore the naysayers.
Why it’s important to trust the process?
It’s important to trust the process because it allows you to enter a psychological state of confidence and you become an unstoppable force in the path of success. At the same time, it brings you other benefits, such as perseverance, resilience, and an ability to focus on one goal.
Trusting the process will lead you to your wildest destinations. Everyone wants to accomplish their goals and to satisfy inner self.
Whether it’s related to health, relationships, wealth or self-improvement goals – everything is possible with the right mindset.
How to trust the process?
Whatever this unknown path has before you, trust the process. - Lalah Delia
You can only trust the process if you have put the effort in setting up the best plan possible. To trust any process in your life, you must guide yourself with basic project management principles:
- Initiating.
- Planning.
- Executing.
- Monitoring and controlling.
- Finishing.
If you skip any of these points, you’ll likely to fail your goal. The aforementioned points are broken down into smaller chunks to comprehend the process of trust easier.
12 Steps to trust the process and achieve any goal
1. Set a goal
The first step in achieving anything in life is to set one goal. It’s crucial to understand that you shouldn’t set more than two goals at a time.
If you set too many goals, you’ll lose focus. Imagine that you have one arrow and a bow. You can’t hit 4 targets with the same arrow. That’s why it’s the best to stick with just one goal.
Another key aspect that everyone has to understand is to set a meaningful goal.
Let’s say someone’s goal is to impress everyone with his/her body. Therefore, the goal is to lose weight and gain some muscle. Such goal is completely meaningless as the satisfaction moment is very short and the duration to achieve the goal is way too long.
Instead, such person should focus on health aspect, feeling better about himself, and enjoying life more in general. Whenever you go to the gym and work out, you’ll come out feeling healthier and happier. You’ll feel productive and satisfied with yourself.
Finally, don’t set an overwhelming goal. If you want to start a business and gain $1,000,000 net in the first year, the chances are almost non-existing. It’s also too hard to predict how successful your business will be in the first year. Instead, focus on making the first $100.
If you can earn $100, it means you can replicate the same principles to get $1000. If you can earn $1,000, it means you can earn $5,000.
You need to start from somewhere and upgrade your goals little by little.
2. Understand the process
After you’ve set a meaningful goal, you have to understand at least the basics of your goal. If we take the losing weight example, you need to understand:
- How does the process work?
- What does it take to achieve it?
- How long will it take?
To lose weight you’ll have to understand that it focuses on basic principle: calories in vs. calories out. If you eat above your maintenance calories, you’ll gain weight. If you’ll eat less – you’ll lose the weight.
To lose weight you’ll need to stick to your training schedule and ability to resist the food. You’ll have to have lots of self-control.
The time that it will take you to lose weight depends on the amount of weight you want to lose and how aggressively you will approach. If you want to lose 10 kg (22 lbs), that might take up to 20 weeks or more.
Only those who dare to fail greatly can ever achieve greatly. - Robert Kennedy
Now you understand the basic process. You have a general view on your goal and you can adjust it if you feel like it’s too much for you at the moment. You even have the power to adjust how will you approach your goal.
The better you’ll understand the process, the more chances to succeed you’ll have. That’s because you’ll be able to foresee more problems in the way.
3. Comprehend the feeling of success
Feeling any kind of emotion is a necessity to understand if your goal makes you satisfied.
How will you feel after achieving your dream body?
How will you feel after becoming a great chef?
How will you feel after buying your dream car, clothes, or anything else?
A question you must ask yourself is “Will I feel satisfaction for a long time? Or is it just a temporary feeling?”
This brings me to a point of the importance to feeling satisfaction of your feelings for short and long-term.
In general, you should seek for long-term satisfaction. If short-term satisfaction is achievable in relatively short time, it’s completely fine too. Sometimes we need to grasp happiness if we didn’t feel it for a long time.
The main point is to justify if your goal and effort that you’ll put in is worth it. If it is, it’ll make you only stronger. You’ll be able to put all your soul and strengths to it.
Besides, someone out there will always believe in your work. At least I believe in you.
4. Create a process plan
As you’ve justified your thoughts, it’s time to put them into hard work. Creating a good plan is the key for you to succeed.
Having no plan is like going blindfold and letting everyone push you. Don’t be a sheep and let everyone to manipulate you.
You’ve got to take as much control as possible. Note that you can’t create a perfect plan even if you’d try to do that for a whole month for 10 hours a day.
Something always goes wrong because you simply have no or little experience in that field. Even if you do have a lot of experience, sometimes we slip even simplest things from our sight.
Therefore, it’s important to try your best and just trust in the process. You’ll gain more experience in the long run and will adapt to your best extent as you’ll face challenges.
To create the best plan to your extent, you have to think thoroughly of the challenges that you might face. Here’s a quick checklist for you to go through:
- Utilize reverse engineering. In other words, work backwards. For example, if you want to earn $1,000 per month, try to calculate how many clients will you need. Think what their needs are.
- Decide what does it take to satisfy the needs of reverse engineering method. How do you attract your clients? What can you offer? How can you work smarter?
- Think of any strengths that you could utilize. In some scenarios, it’s totally okay if you can’t utilize any strengths. Sometimes we have to learn in the process. However, if, by any chance, you have any soft skills (people skills), you can almost always use them to achieve success faster and more efficiently.
- Think of roadblocks that could get in your path. Will you have enough time? Perhaps your will power can be an obstacle? Is there any environmental forces that can slower you down?
- Schedule your plan. Assign to every task a certain time amount. Try to be realistic not to disappoint yourself.
As you’ll gain more experience, you’ll be able to upgrade your plan and schedule. Always remember to stick to your time management regime.
The most important thing is to stay positive and trust in the process. You’ll overcome any obstacle if you’ll believe in yourself.
5. Don’t get frightened to fail
Ask yourself “what if?”
“What if I missed something?”
“What if I let down myself?”
Giving answers to “what if” questions allow you to prepare for the worst-case scenarios.
You are the creator of your own reality. - Esther Hicks
If you missed something in the process, you’d simply have to be flexible about it and try to find the solution to the occurred problem. It happens for the best planners too.
If you let yourself down with the whole process, at least you’ll gain invaluable experience. Not only that, but if you are really motivated to achieve your goal, you’ll be able to get to the same point twice as fast. That’s because doing a new process for the first time always takes up more time than usual.
It’s important to note that fear is natural and everyone faces it in the beginning. In fact, fear of pain stimulates your personal growth. As you progress, you will become more and more confident in the process and you will overcome the obstacles.
It’s easy to fall into despair and surrender to the devil. However, you must learn to trust the process.
6. Learn from mistakes
Mistakes are not mistakes.
It’s crucial to shift from poverty mindset and understand that mistakes are nothing else than learning opportunities and lessons.
No one can do a process perfectly without failing it first. It’s important to recognize the patterns and analyze them. Neglecting mistakes and moving further is like stepping repeatedly on the same rake.
A very important value that mistakes or imperfections provide is the insight of what can be improved. That’s why cars, bikes, telephones, cosmetics, and everything else are constantly changing.
It brings me to the point that it’s best to analyze others’ mistakes and learn from them. By using this approach, you can save a lot of time and frustration in the process.
You can also think about learning from others from a different point of view. Consultants require money for them to share their advice and often it costs a lot. It’s not a coincidence. Access to valuable information that can save you time is highly valuable.
Therefore, if your process is widely available, look up for it on the Internet. You can almost find any information if it’s not a very niche area. Utilize the privileges to your advantage.
If you use this piece of advice, you will be way ahead of everyone and your current self. Leverage the available knowledge for your own needs.
7. Don’t overthink
The psychologist Ashley Carroll says that ruminating on particular thoughts may provoke more negative thoughts. Besides, it can overtake your life by impairing every single decision. It can even result in loss of appetite, isolating from others, and similar.
In some scenarios overthinking is healthy and can help you in achieving goals. In more severe scenarios, that’s an exaggerated form of self-protection which has more negatives than positives.
If you can imagine it, you can achieve it. If you can dream it, you can become it. - William Arthur Ward
To stop overthinking, you have to address what triggers it in the first place. It could be your past trauma, lack of confidence, or it even might be that you carry stress over from your work (or other place) to other life areas.
The faster you identify, the better it is for your own well-being. Then, you should write those triggers down and start overcoming them.
A particular strategy to overcome overthinking is simply meditation. The whole point is to focus on breathing and not to let your mind shift away. It calms down your central nervous system and you can process your thoughts easier.
The key to overcoming overthinking is mindfulness. Ability to focus on the present allows you to stop thinking about past or the future. Your ability to be focused on present will gradually develop and you’ll overthink less.
If you’ve never done meditation, here is an excellent video that will guide you to ease your mind:
8. Adapt if needed
Accept the fact that mistakes are unavoidable. Be willing to be wrong.
Inability to be flexible can cause a lot of stress and problems in the process because you didn’t foresee the mistakes and didn’t accept the fact that you can be wrong.
Our resistance and obsession to be right can be detrimental for our achievements and results. In other words, we shouldn’t be ignorant and we need learn to adapt.
You create your own universe as you go along. - Winston Churchill
The more flexible you are, the more you can be at ease and fulfillment of your process. You’ll be open to new ideas, new challenges that can pivot your process in other direction.
Don’t take yourself too seriously. It only gives you more pressure and stress. Consequently, your mind becomes home for negative thoughts which push you from achieving your goals.
9. Stay consistent
The more consistent you are, the more momentum you will build.
Such approach will snowball and result in more improvements, developments, achievements in your process. Consistency will speed up your progress and lead to fulfillment.
People often lack consistency because:
- They can’t focus.
- They desire “all or nothing” at once.
- There’s no existent routine.
- Poor mindset from the beginning.
Lack of consistency results in wasting your time. Developing consistency isn’t difficult at all. The most difficult thing is to begin and be willing to change.
Here are a few tips how to be more consistent:
- Don’t rush. Take small steps and build momentum. For example, drinking a glass of water every morning isn’t hard, yet it’s a small and very important step for a healthier lifestyle.
- Use free time more effectively. Instead of watching TV all day, consider changing the routine and switching it up to reading a book.
- Manage your time. Allocate time in the day to do the things that are important to you.
- Reward yourself for consistency. Celebrate your consistency on a weekly basis and reward yourself with your favorite meal, going to the cinema or a restaurant, or anything else that you can think of and doesn’t harm you.
10. Enjoy the present
Enjoying present allows to be mindful of the current moment. Living in the present boosts our mood, helps us to overcome easier fear and pain, and allows to deal with stress more efficiently.
Whatever your process is, enjoying the present is extremely important. If you only believe that you can be happy after you achieve the goal, you’ll never be satisfied in life. You’ll be happy very temporarily and you might waste a lot of time not being happy.
If the process doesn’t make you excited, then you either need to change the action plan or the process itself.
I know, it’s hard to enjoy the present. Our minds always think of the past or the future. Things happened in the past. Things may happen in the future. It’s hard to find something in between.
Regardless of that, here are some tips how to enjoy the present:
- Be mindful. Soak in the sounds, smells, view of the present moment as you can. So much is going on yet we forget to fully appreciate the exact moment.
- Don’t hold feelings for the past. If you’ve been hurt in the past or you are still dwelling on your accomplishments that happened a year ago, you should let them go asap. The best day to start was yesterday.
The best time to change something is now. That’s why you should start accomplishing your goals and seeking to become a better person starting from exact this moment which you are reading this text.
- Overcome addictions. Addictions often hold us hostages to dwell in the past or the future. They have a big toll on our psychological behavior and doesn’t allow fully to see the colors of life. Seek for help if you can’t overcome them alone.
11. Stay positive
Trust and positivity go hand in hand. You can’t trust the process if you’re not positive about it.
Positivity not only helps you to achieve your goals, but it also affects your health and well-being. It’s an essential part for stress management and your peace of mind.
Have a vision. It is the ability to see the invisible. If you can see the invisible, you can achieve the impossible. - Shiv Khera
I hope you understand the power of positivity. Here are tips how you can have a more positive outlook to the world:
- Be around positive people. You can obtain a lot of positive thoughts, ideas, laughter from other people.
- Utilize positive self-talk. Unlike the negative self-talk, positive self-talk encourages personal growth, improves your confidence, and mood in general.
- Stay kind. You need to practice good intentions and spread kindness to other people.
Becoming and staying positive is not a rocket science. It’s all about your personality development and changing yourself for your own good.
12. Seek for feedback
Constructive feedback can help you in understanding a new perspective and opening your mind to new opportunities. As much as it’s important to trust the process, but it’s also important not to be ignorant and accept others’ criticism.
That’s why it’s important to distinguish the type of criticism or feedback you get. Forms of criticism, such as destructive criticism should not be taken into consideration as it can completely destroy your confidence and ambitions.
Ignore the ignorant nay-sayers and seek to build your own success.
Don’t get caught with a negative criticism that’s offensive and dishonest. Seek only for constructive criticism that helps you and your process to grow.
Final Words From Delightful Mindset
Accomplishments are followed by good planning, trust, and positivity. As everyone’s goal might differ from each other, it’s important to trust your process, especially if it’s a high scale and takes a long period time to achieve.
Remember that you are your own biggest cheerleader in the process of greatness. It’s definitely a bonus if someone believes in you, but the most important thing is that you believe in your own strengths and perseverance.
Your mind is your strongest tool in achieving success.