Every situation has a silver lining – discover a mindset that heals and enlightens.
October 6, 2021 · 7 min read
Personal relationships are the fertile soil from which all advancement, all success, all achievement in real life grows. - Ben Stein
You know, I‘ve always been happy with myself, but when I found my soul mate my life flipped. I always thought of myself as an independant person that is okay even without a partner.
However, when i found someone that made me happy, I suddenly changed my perspective. My wife is absolutely the most amazing person I‘ve ever met.
Humans by nature are emotionally attached creatures that demand for attention and seek to be acknowledged by other people. Every person wants a partner because they need someone to witness their lives and share the happiness.
Here I present benefits and reasons to be with someone that makes you happy. In other words, that‘s a person that you should be with. We must appreciate our loving and caring partners.
Imagine being a humorous person and not being able to share your jokes with someone. Some of your personality traits might fade away because they require to be shared with other people. Eventually, you‘d lose your inner enthusiasm.
Imagine being in a relationship that makes you feel “meh“ and being not as happy as you think you could be. Constantly thinking about it could make you lose your sanity. Therefore, you need someone that you are happy with.
Imagine another scenario: you have all the money in the world and there‘s entertainment to be found everywhere.
You can get all the cars, houses, private planes, etc. However, would you find that entertaining? At first, definitely. You‘d probably find ways to enjoy yourself perhaps for even a couple of years.
Nevertheless, after that period you‘d thrive for intimacy. You‘d see other people having fun together, holding hands, and similar. You‘d LOVE to share your happiness with someone else.
Being with someone that makes you happy and you can make happy, appreciates your personality, is the key to a successful relationship and happiness in general. If you both enjoy being around each other, there‘s nothing more important in a relationship.
One of the loveliest perks of being with someone you love is that you don‘t have to be cautious of being who you are. To put it simply, you can show your true-self and don‘t need to hide your emotions. You are not afraid to be vulnerable and most importantly, being yourself.
A person that critizes you, is too defensive about his/her opinion, and uses gaslighting is something that you should avoid at all costs.
Love is composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies. - Aristotle
Being emotionally safe is extremely important in a relationship. The reason is very simple – emotional safety is built on trust and by trusting your partner you can count on him/her for the rest of your life.
Trusting someone provides you a sense of safety. You have faith in person‘s strength, which in a sense puts you also in a risk, but through the other person. If you are feeling lonely, you‘ll have only yourself.
Having trust in someone can also reduce stress and increase the optimism. That‘s because instead of 1 person tackling with the problem, now there are 2 people. This aspect increases your confidence levels also.
Therefore, you are not afraid of vulnerability and trusting someone makes you feel safe.
According to a nearly 80 years long Harvard research, close relationships helps to increase happiness levels, delay physical and mental decline.
Happy relationships have the power to reduce stress and anxiety. Living in a state of worries constantly can reduce your longevity.
Therefore, life expectancy is based not only on regular life factors, such as physical activity, nutrition, but also on quality of life. Consequently, being in a happy relationship can prolong your life.
If you be with someone that makes you happy, you will definetely want to provide that person all the best options in life he or she can get.
As a consequence, you will have to do some important life decisions.
These consequences include such as bettering your career options, being the best version of yourself, and thinking about future in general.
Never love anyone who treats you like you're ordinary. - Oscar Wilde
For an instance, the line of maturity in 20s differs vastly among peers. While some people are ambitious and trying their hardest to find their way to success in life, other people still keep playing video games from morning till the evening and scroll mindlessly through social media feed.
Your sense of providing someone the best life is a great tool to find your path to success and find your real values of life.
Spending time together is fun.
Surely, being alone is very important too, but naturally people are social beings and thrive to communicate and interact. Having someone by your side always reassures you that you‘re never alone and you have plenty of options to spend time even more excitingly.
Also, a different perspective on entertainment is very beneficial as it lets you to explore new things that you wouldn‘t have thought of otherwise. When you be with someone that makes you happy, you discover more fun activities.
Why You Might Find It Hard To Fall In Love?
People that are intelligent often struggle with relationships. They overthink a lot and trust their mind more than their hearts.
Here is a short video about this occuring problem.
Being with someone that makes you happy can provide with a different perspective on life. You are sharing feelings together, doing activities that you would‘ve never thought of doing, and you have a second opinion that differs than yours.
There is always madness in love. But there is also always some reason in madness. - Friedrich Nietzsche
To put it into a perspective, think how you were like before meeting your significant other:
It can sound like a cliche, but your partner is like your second piece that you were missing. He or she fills this gap and makes you the best version of yourself.
Have you ever thought if you‘ll ever find someone that will find you attractive? We‘ve all been there and questioned ourselves.
In the end when we find our partner, we fall in love with each other. In other words, you get attracted mutually. You don‘t need anyone else anymore to reassure you that you are beautiful.
Your partner automatically reassures you that you are amazing and the only person in this world that makes your significant other be attracted to you. In other words, it increases your self-worth.
Notice that when you were single you were less confident, even if you think you were actually confident. Now, as you have found a person you love, your confidence boosted.
The reason for that is because you tried really hard to impress your person and look confident about yourself. As a result of a lot of consequences, now you are a whole different person. Your lover unconsciously made you a stronger person and to have more trust in yourself.
Therefore, now you are more successful in your career, relationships, and you simply learn things faster just because you be with someone that makes you happy.
Before meeting someone you love, you had a different perception of life. You didn’t think that much of it and probably left as it is.
Love is a fire. But whether it is going to warm your hearth or burn down your house, you can never tell. - Joan Crawford
However, now you have more respect for real values of life, such as:
Being in love with someone helps you unconsciously become a better person. It happens gradually that you might not even notice how much you’ve changed after all those years.
Let’s be real – you can’t share physical intimacy with your friends.
Being comforted and sharing physical intimacy can usually be done only with your partner of your life. Snuggling, watching a movie together under the blankets, exploring sexual aspirations are done only with one person of your life.
It’s a surreal experience and it’s almost impossible to understand until you’ve felt that personally. It can be done with one and the only person – someone that makes you extremely happy in life.
Sometimes we lack motivation to do certain things, such as going to the gym, going for a walk, prepare food, etc.
However, if your partner is doing something very productive, you might find it to be inspiring and it will help you to find strength and motivation to do your according tasks.
There are cases when people consider changing career paths, establishing businesses because of their significant other.
Therefore, if you’ve chosen the right person of your life, you should be inspired to accomplish something great or just be a better person in general.
If you ever feel down, you always have someone that makes you happy by your side. Being comforted to ease your emotional dissatisfaction can help you tremendously to feel better.
That’s the essence of life – when you feel down, you always have someone to lean on. In this way, you can recover faster and feel delighted when you have the need for it.
Emotional support allows you to:
Just by touching, complimenting, respecting and comforting other’s feelings can help a very long way in a person’s well-being.
Some people are deep extroverts and are thriving when being around others.
For a comparison, an introvert will feel the best and having the most energy when being alone, while an extrovert will feel the most energetic around other people.
No road is long with good company. – Turkish Proverb
However, this doesn’t mean that there’s no middle ground. If you find the right person and you are an introvert, you can be just as energetic and motivated as being alone. If you be with someone that makes you happy, you should experience a boost of energy even if you don’t feel good around people.
I’m speaking from my personal experience – I’d consider myself as an introvert person.
One of the benefits to be with someone that makes you happy is that my partner in crime always cheers me up and helps me to find strength to achieve my goals and tasks.
According to psychologist Shawn Achor, 10% of our happiness depends on environment and 90% by how we see it.
If you have truly found a person that makes you happy, you should’ve experienced changes in your mindset. You must’ve changed the perception about the world in a good way. You can enjoy smaller things better than before.
Essentially, that’s the main essence of happiness – finding joy in smaller things and making uncomfortable activities pleasurable.
Therefore, if you’ve been in a relationship for at least a few years, I’d like to ask you:
It’s not a surprise that people who are in a healthy relationship feel happier and more fulfilled. If it happens that you are less happy, then you might be in a wrong relationship.
Certainly, to have a partner in crime is a very valuable chance to hold on in your life. There are uncountable things you can learn from each other, share the emotions, happiness, enjoy life together.
On the other hand, having a partner can be not for everyone. In some cases, you might feel yourself being less productive (if you are very goal oriented) and you might not even need that much of emotional attachment as the other person might need. In other words, you have to devote yourself and be determined to spend the rest of your life with the other person.
Undoubtedly, choosing to live life alone or choosing to live life with someone else is a personal preference. There is no obligation for you to do what is thought to be a social norm. Perhaps you don’t want to be with someone that makes you happy. Instead, you can be happy on your own.
Choose what suits you best.